OK, maybe this is a little harsh (some language not work-safe!)
I opened my MySpace messages this morning to find another charming missive:
youre beautiful.. we should get to know each other.. how is myspace treating you?
The picture on the profile is of, admittedly, a stunningly beautiful male. But I clicked through to read his profile, and here’s what it says:
Im black.. I selected white so that white women can see the profile. Please don’t be offended by my message…. That is not my intent…. Honestly I’m just curious…. When I say BBC do you know what I mean?… If not it means Big Black Cock… I know you’ve heard the stories, rumors or myths…. I feel deeply in my heart that many women have not only heard these things but have wondered if they were true or not. Some, I think would, desire to experience a BBC to satisfy their curiosity… However they never act on this curiosity for fear of what others would say if word got out…. I’m just wondering how do you feel about the rumors… have you been curious but afraid….. Finally.. If there were a discrete arrangement built on trust… trust between you and the BBC.. trust that acts would be kept between u and the bbc… would u act on it?
I debated whether to respond at all, but eventually settled on this:
How is MySpace treating me? Let’s just say that MySpace provides me plenty of opportunities to test my communication skills. I read your profile and I’ve experienced both BBC and not-so-BBC, so I have no curiosity about that — I KNOW that it’s a myth, in the sense that black/Black men (choose your spelling) have the same distribution of size that white/White men do. If that picture is of you, then I commend you on your physique, but I’m not the least bit interested in any kind of tryst, secret or otherwise.
I’m also totally over the idea that I should get to know anyone just because they tell me I’m beautiful.
On the other hand, I’m not one to knock sexual experimentation, so I’d be all for your marketing technique if it weren’t for the deception you’re condoning and even seemingly endorsing. It may not be as thrilling and spontaneous, but there are plenty of people who can manage a genuinely trusting encounter in the name of satisfying curiosity, so it doesn’t have to be about lies and sneaking around.
Here’s hoping no jealous boyfriend or husband ever comes to track you down.
- Kate O’
10 Responses to “OK, maybe this is a little harsh (some language not work-safe!)”
Posted: Oct 14th, 2006 at 9:58 am
I know you’re focused on the cheating aspect, but man, the self-objectification in that email is what “impressed” me most. trust between you and the BBC??? Eek.
-J
Posted: Oct 14th, 2006 at 10:29 am
Yeah, I kept waiting for the BBC to pipe up with a nice showtune or something :).
Posted: Oct 14th, 2006 at 9:55 pm
*applause*
Posted: Oct 15th, 2006 at 12:44 am
I would taunt him with “Prove it!” and then disqualifiy the images based on his past track record of deception.
Then again, I am a 14 year old cute Asian girl.
Posted: Oct 15th, 2006 at 7:19 am
yeah, that cracked me up totally.
Posted: Oct 16th, 2006 at 4:09 pm
“Im black.. I selected white so that white women can see the profile.”
That was interesting to me. Is this an indication that the person believes that only black people can see the profiles of black people? Given the other deception angles present I would guess it’s because the person thinks that fooling someone into looking at the profile will have positive aspects. It’s like people that intentionally report things about themselves on dating sites. What’s the point? If you’re not over 6′, or weigh 100lbs more than you claim, or whatever, it’s going to be obvious when you meet.
Baffling…
Posted: Oct 16th, 2006 at 4:30 pm
Yeah, it’s like his little white lie (ouch! bad pun) is OK because he knows what’s good for those white women who are searching for only white men on MySpace.
Posted: Oct 16th, 2006 at 4:31 pm
Prove it!
Posted: Oct 16th, 2006 at 4:33 pm
He’s obviously a philanthropist! Doing it all for the benefit of the ladies!
Posted: Oct 16th, 2006 at 4:52 pm
And here I am criticizing him.